It's great she's achieved what she has and good that she can encourage others. I guess the issue is that she's phrased it - "What's your excuse?" - as an assumed failing on the part of anyone not as toned and fit as she is. If you don't assume that her physique is the ideal, then "What's your excuse?" makes no sense.
It's not just a matter of raising our daughters on what to do/not do to become a rape victim, we need to teach our sons and daughters what is and is not consensual sex. "No means No" is a fine adage to start with, but how about "only Yes means Yes". If you don't get that consent, or, universe forbid, you don't have a conversation with a new partner, especially when both parties are young adults, about what is and is not about to happen with your partner prior to sex, then you don't go through with it. If they are too drunk to say no, then that is not tantamount to saying yes.
I'm at a loss to understand why Yoffe's article is so offensive. She repeatedly and bluntly states that rapists are to blame for rape. She is not blaming the victim. She's advising potential victims to reduce their vulnerability to attack.
I have a right to walk alone, unarmed through a crime-ridden neighborhood in the middle of the night without being robbed. But that doesn't mean that it's a good idea.
A woman has a right to get very drunk the presence of possibly predatory men without being raped. But that doesn't mean it's a good idea.
It would be nice to create a culture where rape is regarded as the truly despicable act that it is. But an individual is not capable of enacting such change. An individual can, however, reduce his/her likelihood of being attacked. It's a matter of locus of control: focus on the things that you can change rather than what you cannot change.
Ms. Hess is correct that rape is a societal problem. But you, the individual, can't change society. You can, however, take steps to reduce the likelihood that you will be attacked by one of these monsters at loose in the world.
I really wish people would stop conflating kink and abuse. The problem with Christian Grey is not that he is kinky or into BDSM. The problem with Christian Grey is that he is an abusive, sexist fuckhead, who uses kink and a sob story as an excuse and cover for his abuse.
Remembering when during WW2 a lot of deliveries, etc. were made by horse draw wagons. We had a nice paved low traffic street to play on. Hated when the horses forced us to move our activity.
He's British. They take acting jobs because they're offered and they pay the bills. They usually go to an art or drama school and get a degree, and then they approach it as anyone else who goes to school and gets a degree: it's a job/career and that's how you make your living. Fame just means they get paid better and can be a bit picky about the roles they take.
There is also a common theme in Batman that being a criminal is an illness and is curable. Batman truly believes this. This was even explored in The Dark Knight Returns where the Joker feigns sanity. Contrast this to Superman who believes that being a criminal is innate and that the only means of stopping a criminal is permanent incarceration. And when criminals have been "redeemed," Supes is hesitant to accept it.
I wholly advocate using universities for more than just advancing a career, including pursuing interests in the name of just pursuing interests. But it can still be a bad life decision if you try to combine it being both a career decision and interest without understanding the risks involved, or otherwise pursuing it without a solid plan to cover the costs. If you end up spending 20 years paying for it, even people with a strong interest in what they studied in school may end up with regrets or second thoughts.
1. Flick light switches up for "on", not down. 2. We are dead serious about driving laws. Tickets are part of municipal income. 3. A $10 martini will have three times the alcohol. 4. When a map shows a hiking trail, there will be a real trail, not a poorly marked series of stiles. 5. Contrary to popular myth, restaurant food portions will be much smaller. 6. While I am on the subject of drinking, beer will have twice the alcohol. 7. The food selection will be greatly increased. Try everything. (Except the fish and chips. You will be greatly disappointed.) 8. The only kitchen appliance you will know how to use is the dishwasher. Ask for help. 9. Our Internet speeds are crap. Get used to it. Nothing to be done.
I have a right to walk alone, unarmed through a crime-ridden neighborhood in the middle of the night without being robbed. But that doesn't mean that it's a good idea.
A woman has a right to get very drunk the presence of possibly predatory men without being raped. But that doesn't mean it's a good idea.
It would be nice to create a culture where rape is regarded as the truly despicable act that it is. But an individual is not capable of enacting such change. An individual can, however, reduce his/her likelihood of being attacked. It's a matter of locus of control: focus on the things that you can change rather than what you cannot change.
Ms. Hess is correct that rape is a societal problem. But you, the individual, can't change society. You can, however, take steps to reduce the likelihood that you will be attacked by one of these monsters at loose in the world.
I really wish people would stop conflating kink and abuse. The problem with Christian Grey is not that he is kinky or into BDSM. The problem with Christian Grey is that he is an abusive, sexist fuckhead, who uses kink and a sob story as an excuse and cover for his abuse.
2. We are dead serious about driving laws. Tickets are part of municipal income.
3. A $10 martini will have three times the alcohol.
4. When a map shows a hiking trail, there will be a real trail, not a poorly marked series of stiles.
5. Contrary to popular myth, restaurant food portions will be much smaller.
6. While I am on the subject of drinking, beer will have twice the alcohol.
7. The food selection will be greatly increased. Try everything. (Except the fish and chips. You will be greatly disappointed.)
8. The only kitchen appliance you will know how to use is the dishwasher. Ask for help.
9. Our Internet speeds are crap. Get used to it. Nothing to be done.