I didn't get to dress up as whatever I wanted when I was four. I got to wear whatever costume Mom wanted me to wear--I think it was a dinosaur. It was an authority/kids-don't-get-everything-they want issue. She had a dinosaur costume that would work fine and was unwilling or unable to obtain another.
I don't know if it's ethically correct to make your kid suffer more than necessary in order to maintain and instill the values you believe in in him, but human nature being what it is I think they're correct about what the neighbors will say.
I don't know if it's ethically correct to make your kid suffer more than necessary in order to maintain and instill the values you believe in in him, but human nature being what it is I think they're correct about what the neighbors will say.