The short answer is yes, but with some very important caveats. Extracurricular activities help children figure out what their interests are and where their passion lies. However, we have to be open to the idea that, even though they expressed interest in something early on, they might not pursue it further or continue in it because somewhere along the way, they lose their passion for it or get bored.
We have to guide children and model what it means to pursue a certain interest or passion, or even just to walk with them in their journey toward discovering the thing that best fits them. So, in this regard, I would like to share a bit of my story.
I remember when I was in grade school, I was part of this speech and theatre arts club, not by choice but by compulsion, I would say. For one, I was a very impressionable kid when I was younger, and so whenever teachers tell me to do something, I would just do it. My English teacher volunteered me to be part of that club, and so I just went ahead and joined it.
To be fair, I quite liked some parts of that club although a lot of it was embarrassing. Being a shy kid, that was a nightmare for me. But through that experience, I learned how to suck it up and just do what you're told. It also gave me some confidence and provided space for practicing speaking and acting.
In a way, the experiences that I had in that club helped mold my personality and, props to my teacher for pushing us because it really opened up a whole world of opportunities for me. English isn't my first language, but that teacher drilled English into my tongue, my thoughts, and even my behavior and attitude. It's safe to say that it literally defined who I was going to be throughout high school and parts of my college life.
That wasn't the only extracurricular activity I had done in grade school. I was also part of a literature or creative writing club. Again, that was not by choice, but by compulsion. However, my writing teacher wasn't as forceful as our speech and theatre arts teacher. She was more gentle but very strict when it came to judging our essays and other written output.
These two extracurricular activities formed the foundation of what I was going to do and what paths I was going to take in the future. Of course, they didn't determine everything about my life. But they provided several avenues which I was able to consider, and again numerous opportunities.
I remember being ridiculed by people because I spoke in English without code-switching. It hurt since, from the perspective of a 12-year-old, being laughed at for doing as you're told seemed unreasonable. But anyway, things worked out in the end. And even though I had grievances from my English teacher for forcing us to speak in English and essentially, abandoning our native tongue for a time, in hindsight, I think it was a net positive for me.
If I were to be given a choice of which extracurriculars to participate in back then, I probably would have chosen something like the chess club or a special elective for coding and programming. Only later in life did I realize that I hadn't actually explored my passions a lot when I was a kid, and to be honest, I somewhat regret having wasted some time.
If I had been more adventurous and explored many different fields, endeavors, interests, and hobbies back in my pre-pubescent period, then I might have been able to pour all my energy, attention, and resources toward those things, and I might have been able to have a clearer goal in mind with regard to the direction I want to take my life.
Extracurricular activities may be considered as decorations on a person's résumé, something that they can show others to prove their capabilities or talents. But, it's more than that. It's what we use to help us figure out what it is exactly that we love to do. What ignites a burning passion in us to pursue something. It's what helps us find those things that cause us to get up every morning.
For some people, they may even use extracurricular activities as a means of relieving stress, finding community, discovering and bettering themselves, and learning what is truly important to them. So, although it is good for children to dedicate themselves to their academics, balancing that with some extracurriculars can help them.
It's important to note, again, that we also need to be aware of the limits that children have. Just as much as adults get burned out, children do too. Pushing them or forcing them to do something that they find no passion for will just lead to resentment in the end.
In my case, I found some benefit to what I had been forced to do. But, to be honest, I kind of liked it as well. Or, at least, I learned to like it. And I'm greatly benefitting from it today. However, it's really a different experience when somebody is pursuing something out of their own volition and initiative.
So, we too as parents or guardians, need to find the right balance on how to encourage and motivate our children to pursue what it is that they love, and the thing that they find most fulfillment in doing. That's what extracurricular activites are for.
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