When actor Robin Williams past recently, it was quite shock to us all. A man who had spent so many years making us all laugh so consistently was in pain inside, and that can be hard to look back and reflect upon.
Though there are many who said they did not see that side of the actor and had no idea it was coming, it is clear to see during his final interview that there was a sort of emptiness to how he portrayed himself. He seemed flat and like his mind was elsewhere. As if getting each word out was a struggle. It is not the Robin Williams we were all used to, but it also shows us that maybe the signs were there, and we just didn't have the courage to see them or ask him if he needed help.
Though this may seem morbid to post, let me reassure you, it is with the utmost respect for all of you that I do. Let Robin Williams be the trigger that leads us all to lean in to someone we care about and ask them if they are okay. Life is tough, and it beats down the best and brightest of us. Let this be the tragic precursor to change, is all I saying.
Because even with the brightest and funniest, as this video proves, sometimes the signs are there. We just choose to ignore them because it scares us.
BTW: Williams' last interview was with 60 Minutes.
BTW: Williams' last interview was with 60 Minutes.
I called my mother to comment on it with her, and how saddened I was that such a seemingly wonderful man would be lost to us all...and I reflected to her about their being the same age, and how I wasn't ready to lose her.
My mom died alone in her home approximately 1 week after Robin Williams. Although my mom wasn't special to the entire world as this man was, she was a large portion of my world. I wish I had taken more time to show her...perhaps I could have prevented her death. Although she didn't take her own life, I believe the isolation she was putting herself in wasn't healthy. Although she would always tell me "I'm fine" on the phone long distance, and assure me she was taking her medication and wasn't having any issues, she effectively kept some health issues a secret from me. Once I needled some information out of her, I told her I wanted to make plans to move her in with me next summer when I could sell my house for a larger one, so she could still feel "independent" in a mother-in-law type suite. Had I actively recognized signals of depression, or acted faster, I might have made a difference, and still have my mom. I struggle with that.
I've been told lately during the grieving process that parents OFTEN pretend that everything is "fine" in an effort to avoid being a burden on their children. Don't let your loved ones brush you off. If you feel like something is "going on" with a loved one, go with your instincts. Don't let them lock themselves away. Maybe my mom's death can prevent someone else's.
Robin Williams
My Sweet Mom <3
1951-2014