When her 12-year-old daughter wanted to post a photo of herself wishing she could drink vodka, author and mom ReShonda Tate Billingsley decided to teach her a lesson with what could be the most powerful parental disciplinary weapon ever devised by man: Facebook shaming.
At first, it might seem like your typical case of modern parental discipline: A Texas mom has prohibited her 12-year-old daughter from using the photo-sharing site Instagram after she caught the girl posting a photo of herself holding an unopened bottle of vodka with a caption that read “I sure wish I could drink this.”
But it’s what ReShonda Tate Billingsley did next that has people buzzing: Billinglsey, a prominent Houston-area author, had her daughter post a new picture of herself to Instagram earlier this month holding a sign reading, “Since I want to post photos of me holding liquor, I am obviously not ready for social media and will be taking a hiatus until I learn what I should (and) should not post. Bye-bye.” [...]
“I thought she knew better, but in her mind, she thought, ‘I’m not drinking, what’s the problem?’” Billingsley said. What the girl didn’t realize, she said, was that the photo might still send the wrong message to a future employer or prove attractive to a predator, who “can see it and think this is a little girl who likes to drink.”
“Because she had been warned,” she added, “I felt I needed to hit her where it hurt most.”
And hurt it did. After she explained the punishment to her daughter, the girl was “devastated” for a day, Billingsley said.
“She actually asked for a spanking instead; she begged for a spanking,” she said.
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BTW most kids wouldn't think the kid had been shamed by this. They would feel the kid had been shamed by having a jerk for a mother.
tayatayataya: I am so terrified of having kids because of the fine line between being their friend/cool parent in an attempt to stay "in the loop" with them and know what's really going on with them instead of having them lie to me...I hope to really try to be a PARENT (not a friend) but at some point have the conversation with them in which I share some of my mistakes as a youth, and how I needed my parents to hear/understand me, and when they did, it really helped me. Hopefully that will let my kid know when they need someone to tell something to without judgement, to come my way. TERRIFYING!!!
And that is why she should never have posted this photo of her daughter, nor conducted media interviews about it. Her actions were counterproductive.
I'm really getting tired of parents airing their grievances with their child and calling it "discipline". It's not. For me, it is proof that the parents aren't ready for social media either.