The Ghosts of Facebook

When you die, what happens to your Facebook profile? That's a question that most Facebookers don't really think about, but with 500 million members, the problems of death and ghost accounts are becoming very real for the website:

Courtney Purvin got a shock when she visited Facebook last month. The site was suggesting that she get back in touch with an old family friend who played piano at her wedding four years ago.

The friend had died in April.

“It kind of freaked me out a bit,” she said. “It was like he was coming back from the dead.”

Facebook, the world’s biggest social network, knows a lot about its roughly 500 million members. Its software is quick to offer helpful nudges about things like imminent birthdays and friends you have not contacted in a while. But the company has had trouble automating the task of figuring out when one of its users has died.

That can lead to some disturbing or just plain weird moments for Facebook users as the site keeps on shuffling a dead friend through its social algorithms.

Jenna Wortham of The New York Times has the story: Link (Photo by Brandon Thibodeaux / NY Times)


"most Facebookers don’t really think about"

what??

i have two dead friends who's old pages still haunt me

i feel like most facebookers are already aware of this issue
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I really see those profiles as a kind of guestbook that doesn't expire. A dear friend died two years ago, and writing on his wall was cathartic. Sometimes I'll post when I think of him. It's nice to still have a small connection.

I did however get annoyed when Facebook kept telling me to say hi to him.
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We had a friend that passed away in February and it says that as well. Since his parents have access to his FB, they have turned it into a memorial website for people to post stories they experienced with Keith, as well as the disease that took his life.
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I like the article's "report as dead" idea. There's a lot of people that don't have family members on facebook to provide a really reliable proof of death or folks that have accounts their family members might not even know about that might still show up. Sometimes, if your friends could flag it, and it gets flagged often enough, facebook could investigate it.

I think the memorialized page idea is nice. With my friends that have passed away, I personally don't want to see them on there at all and hate the way it feels when I have to "unfriend" a dear deceased friend, and I might want to see their page occasionally, but on my own terms when I feel up to it. That would provide a way that they could stop showing up in my facebook stuff on regular days when the reminder that they're gone isn't fun, but I'd still be able to see it if I wanted to. I don't want to be asked to reconnect with them. I don't want to see their name when I'm sending out invitations to a party they won't be attending. Making their profile into a memorial page would be sort of a happy medium between blotting out someone's profile and still treating them like a living person.
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I've had several friends die and then keep showing up as logged into Instant Messenger. Apparently their computers were set to log in automatically, and a family member had booted them up. It made my hair stand up every time.
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A friend of mine died last year and someone hacked her account. So one day at work I had FB on in the background when a chat message popped up from my dead friend! It really freaked me out although I realized immediately what had happened. When I confronted "my friend" with her lack of earthly existence "she" unfriended me.
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Like some other commenters - I have a couple of "dead" FB friends. One of whom gets messages from his bunch of friends from time to time when we miss or think of him. It's a comfort.

FB asking me to reconnect? Notsomuch.
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unfriending dead people is strangely disrespectful.

you die and your page still exists but you have no friends?

sounds lame to me

i guess more than anything it's convenient if somebody else knows your password so they can at least change something in your page, that way you're not "driving to a party" until the end of time.
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