There's an intriguing trend afoot: men - both gay and straight - are turning to surrogacy to become single dads.
Surrogacy experts say because the practice is not regulated, many surrogacy arrangements are handled privately by individuals. Precise figures are hard to come by, but experts say there's no doubt the United States is experiencing a surrogacy baby boom. [...]
Surrogacy experts say gestational surrogacy has increased steadily since the advent of in vitro fertilization in the early 1980s, because it provides an extra layer of emotional and legal protection for the client. The egg donor usually does not even know the client, and unlike the legally contentious "Baby M" case from the 1980s, the surrogate is not giving birth to her genetic child.
"It rises as an issue far less frequently with gestational surrogacy, because women never see it as their child to begin with," said John Weltman, president of Circle Surrogacy. [...]
Although most of their single male clients are gay, surrogacy providers say a smaller but growing number are straight. Steven Harris, a New York malpractice and personal-injury attorney, says he gave up trying to get married when he realized his primary motive was to start a family.
advertisementHarris, 54, says he knew he made the right decision after 21-month old Ben was born. "I thought getting married was the only way to go, because I did want a family. But having Ben, I feel complete now," Harris says.
It's fatherhood without all the hassles of a marriage - is that a good thing? Ronni Berke of CNN has the story: Link - Thanks Tiff!
I feel so sorry for the babies that have to go through this.
Your girlfriends issues don't completely stem from just her birthmother's surrender. There are other outlying issues she needs to address.
Adoption is a beautiful thing, be it straight, gay, single or married. Every child deserves a loving family.
Surrogacy isn't adoption. It is paying someone else to have a child for you. At no point do the genetics of the person the womb is attached to enter into the equation. A woman who enters into a surrogacy contract is aware of this, as is the father. If you were a product of artificial insemination, would you feel the same way about the sperm donor?
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http://raincoaster.com/2008/04/13/stupid-girl/
We've seen women choose to raise kids without men for years. What's any different here?
I would think that one concern is that a pedophile would try something like this. Scary to think of what the kid would be in for.
That is, until the artificial womb is perfected.
Sadly, this is one more thing for the traditional/pro-family/"you're destroying society, where are your morals?" idiots to latch on to.
Because so many hateful people have made it difficult for gay couples to adopt, I never considered adoption. With surrogacy, the children are biologically related to one of us and under our state laws the other part of a couple can be specified as the child's parent. Thus, only our names appear on the birth certificates.
From the child's point of view I think this is better than what 25 - 50% get. 50% end up with divorced parents and most of those have little or no contact with their fathers. So these children loose contact with a father that they once loved. With surrogacy they will always have their loving father and they never knew their mother.