Stacey Fearnall, whose father died of cancer, decided to shave her head for a cancer fundraising event. But when she returned to work at Nathaniels restaurant, where she worked as a waiter, she was laid off:
The mother of two, who was told by her boss to go home after she refused to wear a wig, was in tears when she returned home Tuesday just a half hour into her shift.
"When she went in she felt like there was something wrong with her,'' her husband said. "Nobody would really look at her, make eye contact. They didn't really say anything and it made her feel kind of less than human.''
It was a slow night so she came home early, but when she called to say she'd be in the next day, she was told not to bother, he added.
Nathaniels owner and chef Dan Hilliard defended his decision, saying the restaurant has certain standards. He prohibits male staff from wearing earrings and requires employees keep their hair at a reasonable length.
But let's see..."But Fearnall said she never got a clear answer when she asked if she'd still have a job if she went through with her plan."
So she knew that it wouldn't be a kosher thing to do in advance. And technically, she still has a job there-- they didn't flat-out fire her. That said, anyone who would be so discomfited by a woman with cropped hair (boss or customer) really just needs to get over it.
Think of Hooters without the boobs.
Nathaniel’s Restaurant
215 8th Street East
Owen Sound, ON N4K 1L2
(519) 371-3440
Owner: Dan Hilliard
for real, though. how is "shaved" not an appropriate length? i guess knowing the guy's a tool to begin with it shouldn't surprise us that he would be bent on perpetuating stereotypes. in this case, it's the female stereotype that "all" women have long hair and don't shave their heads because women are "supposed" to care about how hot they are. i bet he requires his female employees to wear makeup and short shorts, too.
Further more, she was offered a wig, refused to wear it.
Still, the owner of the restaurant should win multiple prizes in the categories of "PR Disasters of the Year", "Shooting one's self in the foot", "Poorly thought out employee relations policies" and "Defend the Indefensible Golden Cup Award".
Put your money where your mouth is.
It's no different than if she'd gotten a big anti-cancer tattoo on her forehead. Nice sentiment, but still not appropriate for the job. It's hard setting appearance standards when you're a boss. If you start letting some people get by with some things, and start making room for exceptions based on subjective things like why they chose the style, or if you agree with the statement they're making, you're setting yourself up for a ton of hassle and controversy. It's a lot easier (and more fair, in the long run) to just to set a policy and stick to it. Employees can comply or choose to work somewhere else.
And bald women are gorgeous!
By all accounts she was an excellent employee.
Today's issue of The Toronto SUn has more details.
BTW, my mother-in-law has been through three bouts of cancer. Before chemo, she bought two wigs and some turbans. She never wore the wigs. When you don't have hair, wigs are very uncomfortable and difficult to wear. She wore turbans until her hair came in about an inch, then just let it show.
She could go baldy outside work but should wear a wig at work - or just not cut her hair off at all and use a rubber cover.
The appearance of an employee or manager is very important in business.